Roam if you want to

E-word,

El and I met up with an old classmate of mine and his wife last night for dinner. He's moving to Japan in a month to get his PhD. His wife is Japanese (and he's white), so it works out well for them. We were talking about how it seems that the only way to get people to meet up is for one of them to basically leave for somewhere far away. The definite benefit is that since they'll be in Japan for the next 3 years, we'll have friends to visit in Japan when we inevitably go to Seoul.

It was a fun night, El and his wife (let's name them Alfred and Suki) got along great, we drank lots of alcohol and had a lot to talk about. They're going to Paris for the first time next week before they leave for Japan, and since El and I met there, we had a lot of stuff to share with them. As well, Suki has been helping us out with getting reservations at restaurants in Tokyo while we're there.

This got me thinking about community again, and how even though friendships like this are rarer and come less frequently, they seem so far superior to 'intentional' communities. I think, anyway. I've had so many random thoughts today.

Suki was really envious of El's life in NY, but we told her that in the end we didn't like NY. The problem with saying that to anyone is the fact that everyone really wants to experience that disappoint for themselves as opposed to just taking folks on their word. I completely understand. In the same way, even though I think that joining a small group will be disappointing, we still have to do it to make sure that that's how we feel.

Anyway, I went to work hungover for the first time in ages, and it frankly felt great. It reminded me of younger days, and even though I have no desire to go to the gym, I'm tired, and my head aches, it's still a bit of nostalgia.

Love,

Toe